Monday, December 29, 2008
Wednesday, December 10, 2008
Going BOWLING....
Monday, December 8, 2008
My AHAH moment....
When A.J. left for school I knew I wanted to give him space and not bug him. It was hard when I realized that he didn't need me as much as I wanted him to need me(Dave let me know that's because we raised him right). I know this first semester hasn't been easy on him and, at times, I wasn't sure how he was doing. Erin has been having some difficulty in school this semester and I have had to lay down the law in ways I didn't want to (i.e. take away her car and restrict her USY activities). She would often be in her room doing who knows what and seemed unhappy.
I knew I didn't need my kids to think of me as their best friend and tell me everything BUT I also knew that I didn't want them to HATE me, or worse think I was to blame for their problems. It hurt to think that they may be sad, upset or lonely and feel they had no place to turn.
I went back over conversations, discussions and actions I have taken in the past few months and decided I would change very few things. I decided that I did all the things I needed to do so that my kids knew that I cared about them and cared about their future. I decided its OK if they are mad at me or don't need as much of me as they once did. Its OK if they want to keep to themselves or share their problems with someone other than me. I do know that I have done what I needed to do so they know I love them and will always be here for them--no matter what. When all is said I done I want my children to know I care. And that, without even consciously knowing it, was what I wanted all along.
Its been too long
All seems well with Erin. It looks like we may have turned the corner on school/study issues (keep your fingers crossed) and it is now soccer season. She plays on the JV team at Canyon and, IMO, is great!! It is so fun to watch her play and see what a daredevil she is in goal. She is afraid of NOTHING. It is still preseason and the team is off to a bit of a rocky start. Hopefully they will get it together just in time for league and then kick some Santa Clarita butt. Of course, I will keep you posted.
Well thats all for now. I will try to keep you more in the loop!! Happy Holidays!
Tuesday, November 18, 2008
A.J. in the news....
Sunday, November 9, 2008
Going BOWLING!!!
1. The Pioneer Las Vegas Bowl on December 2oth
2. The New Mexico Bowl on December 20th
3. The Poinsettia Bowl, in San Diego, on December 23rd
4. The Armed Forces Bowl, in Fort Worth, on December 31st
Which game they play in depends on how they finish in the Mountain West Conference (MWC) and, of course, how the other teams finish.
How it works is a bit complicated but I will try to put in simply, or as I understand it. First and foremost, a team has to finish at least 6-6 in the conference to even be invited. Then the teams are invited in the following order...Las Vegas goes first, Poinsettia goes second, New Mexico and Armed Forces get the last 2 picks. In general it is the top 4 teams in the conference EXCEPT if the team that finishes first in the conference is chosen to play in a BCS bowl game.
This year, if all goes well, that will happen. UTAH is currently 10-0. If they can finish the season undefeated they should be a BCS buster and be invited to a BCS game. That then moves all the MWC teams up a notch.
At this time Air Force is currently tied for 3rd, with BYU. Whom Air Force plays this Saturday. Their final game is against TCU, who is currently second in the conference. Air Force has a chance to win those last 2 games. They are playing great football and there is no reason for that to change. If on the off chance they do NOT win the last 2 games then the worst they can finish in the conference is 4th. If UTAH becomes the BCS buster then Air Force will be picked third for a bowl game. If they do not then they will be picked 4th.
The bowl organizers are not required to pick the teams in order of finish BUT they are looking for the best game possible. They want to sell tickets, put people in the seats and generate TV viewers. AFA has shown they can do that!!
Where they will play will not be known for a few weeks. Anywhere is really great BUT if you are asking for my preference I will tell you.... Poinsettia Bowl in San Diego. Not only is it local but that game will be played on AJ's 18th birthday. I couldn't throw him a better birthday party if I tried!!
Tuesday, November 4, 2008
Sushi RULES!
Figuring out how to eat sushi politely can be confusing at first, but if you remember the tips in this article, you're sure to display good sushi manners in a Japanese friend's home or at a sushi bar.
Don't rub chopsticks together
Don't rub disposable wooden chopsticks (waribashi) together after splitting them apart. Making a performance out of rubbing them together shows bad manners. It implies that the chopsticks have splinters and are cheap, insulting your host. If you must, or the disposable chopsticks really do splinter when you snap them apart, rub them together discreetly, not in view of all.
Do place chopsticks together
There's chopstick etiquette for proper placement and use just as there's etiquette for knives and forks. Don't cross your chopsticks when you set them down, any more than you'd cross your knife and fork when you set them down. Lay your chopsticks down tightly together, below your plate, and directly in front of you. The points should face to the left if you're right-handed, or the opposite way if you're left-handed. And heaven forbid you stick chopsticks in food — especially a bowl of rice! That's a definite no-no! This is done only at funerals, where the deceased's personal chopsticks are placed upright in a full bowl of rice, offering the person sustenance for the journey into the next world.
Don't look for a spoon
As unusual as it sounds, the Japanese don't use spoons. They sip their soups out of small soup bowls. Sometimes soups are served in lacquer bowls with lids. You remove the lid (which keeps the soup warm), lift the bowl, and sip out of it. Any small, solid ingredients are eaten with chopsticks while holding up the bowl. If the heat of the soup causes the lid to stick, don't panic. Simply squeeze both sides of the bowl gently with your fingers and the lid will pop loose. If it's too difficult for you to drink soup without a spoon, go ahead and ask for one. But give it a try the Japanese way, at least once.
Do flip chopsticks over
If the sushi bar or dinner host doesn't provide serving utensils, go ahead and flip your chopsticks over and use the blunt, clean ends to pick up some tasty bit of sushi from a communal platter or bowl or from a friend's plate, if the friend is willing to share! Set the items down on your plate and flip the chopsticks back to their original position to eat with them. Doing this is hygienic and shows that you care for yourself and others at the table.
Don't overload on soy sauce
Don't drench your sashimi (slices of raw fish) or sushi (vinegared rice items) with soy sauce. Soy sauce is meant to enhance flavors, not smother them. Just as it's polite to taste your food before you salt it, it's polite to limit the use of soy sauce, letting the hosts or sushi chef's mastery of flavors be your guide. Just lightly dip your sashimi or sushi in your soy sauce.
Do dip the fish in soy sauce
There's a practical reason for dipping the fish or other finger sushi topping — instead of dipping the sushi rice ball — into the soy sauce or other dipping sauce. The rice ball falls apart, making quite a mess. Plus, the rice absorbs too much soy sauce, drowning out the delicate tastes of the sushi rice. Doing so also insults the host or sushi chef who took time to season the way he felt was right.
Don't put wasabi in soy sauce
Unless you're absolutely crazy about wasabi and can't help yourself, don't mix wasabi in your soy sauce when eating sushi. If you want to do the proper thing, ask your host or sushi chef to put extra wasabi in the sushi itself. Eating sashimi is the exception. When eating sashimi, you can mix a bit of wasabi in soy sauce without being improper.
Do eat sushi with your fingers
Finger sushi started out about 200 years ago as a street snack meant to be picked up and eaten with your fingers. You can use chopsticks to eat sushi, but fingers are still perfectly acceptable. But always use chopsticks, not fingers, when you eat sashimi.
Don't forget to use the washcloth
In a sushi bar or restaurant, you'll receive an oshibori, which is a small hot or cold (depending on the weather) wrung-out towel to cleanse your hands with, before and sometimes after you finish your meal. Oshibori is set in front of you when you sit down. Pick it up out of its little basket or tray, wipe your hands, fold it up, and put it back in the basket. If you like, keep this first oshibori to wipe your fingers during the meal. Sometimes you'll see the Japanese wiping their face with their oshibori, which is perfectly acceptable. Wiping your hands and face with an ice-cold towel is refreshing if it's a particularly hot summer day. Conversely, if it's been very cold, a warm towel on your face feels great!
Do ask the sushi bar wait staff for food and drink
When you sit down at the sushi bar in a sushi or Japanese restaurant, the wait staff will bring you just about everything but the sushi. They'll bring you your first oshibori, or washcloth, for your hands, and a cup of complimentary tea. You'll place your orders for sushi with the sushi chef in front of your section of the sushi bar, but you ask the wait staff for any drinks, like sake, wine and beer, and items such as soups, salads, and desserts that are on the restaurant's Japanese menu. The exception to this rule is if you'd like the sushi chef to prepare a special dish, perhaps a salad, to go with his sushi that's not on the menu. If you need more soy sauce, extra plates, clean dishes, or another oshibori, ask the wait staff. Tell the sushi chef when you've finished your meal. He's been keeping track of your sushi dishes and will have the wait staff add them to your bill.
Friday, October 31, 2008
Halloween 2008
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
Live from Colorado Springs....
I have been getting lots of questions about A.J. that I do my best at answering. I thought, though, it would be best to go to the source. I asked A.J. a bunch of questions and he answered me in his own A.J. kinda way. With his permission I have done a bit of editing on the answers....
1. Do you enjoy the academy?
Eh, its ok, I guess
2. What do you like about it?
The football’s cool, and most of my squadmates are friendly.
3. What do you dislike about it?
I cant stand the military stuff. Especially the stupid freshman shit, like walking only on the right side of the hallway. And running the strips and shit.
4. Are you having fun?
Its not very much fun. It isn’t the college life I wanted. You’re supposed to go to parties and have fun on the weekends, you know, and I haven’t gotten a chance to do that, and I really wanted to.
5. How are you doing academically?
Are the classes hard?
School is going very well. My classes really aren’t that hard. My teachers seem to like me, and I get the material pretty easily.
6. Do you regret your decision to attend?
I don’t know if regret is really the right word. Do I wonder if things would be better at Harvard? Yeah. But regret just inst the word, I’m looking for.
7. How is football?
Football is going well. I really hope that we get into a bowl game.
8. Is it hard not to stand on the sidelines and not get in the game?
Its really not that hard to be on the sideline. Especially when I know that Lusk is better than me. I know I will get my time. Sooner or Later.
9. What are you hoping to do this summer?
This summer I will have to a bunch of training stuff so I don’t know how much time I will have. But I probably just want to relax, hang out with friends, stuff like that.
10. What foods do you miss and want your Mom to cook when you get home?
I think I want shepards pie, the dutch oven ribs, a good steak, and crushed carrots, maybe twice baked potato.
Of course, I discussed a few of his answers with him a bit more in depth. He did tell me he doesn't want to leave the Academy and is certain it will get much better after "Recognition" which is in March. At that time he will have more privileges and not have to "run the strips" and do the other "freshman shit" he doesn't like. He is looking forward to next year when he gets much, much more freedom on the weekends and he will be able to go out in the town and attend parties and, in general, have more fun. He was told in advance that Freshman year is hard and isn't like any other college. He is glad that no one sugar coated it and he knew what he was getting himself into. In addition, he says that it will really be all worth it if the team gets to a bowl game this year. At this time they are "bowl eligible". They currently have a 6-2 record and a team must finish 6-6 or better to be eligible. If they can win this week and next then they will be HIGHLY likely to play in a bowl game. I will keep you posted on that.
If you want to "talk" to A.J. send him an email. His address is c12austin.wallerstein@usafa.edu
I know he would love to hear from you.
Monday, October 13, 2008
Pictures from this weekend....
Maple Gorp (aka TAILGATE MIX)
MAPLE GORP
(you can use any nuts you like but these are the ones we happen to prefer)
¼ cup maple syrup
1 tsp cinnamon
1 tsp vanilla
1 cup oats
1 cup cashews
2 cups whole natural almonds
1 cup peanuts, unsalted
2 tablespoons brown sugar
½ cup raisins, a couple of handfuls
½ cup shelled pumpkin seeds or sunflower seeds
1 cup plain M&M's
Preheat oven to 375 degrees F. Place maple syrup on the stove with cinnamon and vanilla over medium low heat to infuse the flavor. Warm syrup a couple of minutes, remove. Combine oats, nuts, seeds and brown sugar in a bowl. Toss with maple syrup mixture. Spread the maple coated mixture out on a cookie sheet and roast 15 minutes. Remove the nuts from oven and transfer to another cold pan, tossing the mix to quick-cool it. Once cool, toss with M&M’s & raisins.
The BEST....
See these ladies I am pictured with? Well these are my aunts and my mom. I am so lucky to have them all in my life. They spoil me, my husband and my kids like you wouldn't believe. They are there for me in good times and in bad. They are there at the drop of a hat to have fun and do the dirty work. I am certain there is nothing they wouldn't do for me and my family. Not to mention, they are just fun to be with.
My Aunt Jean, my mom's sister, is to the left of me and over the years we have had some great fun and often at her expense. She takes it all it stride and laughs with us. She never takes anything too personal and sets a wonderful example in that department. One of her classic lines came one day, over 18 years ago, when we were out shopping for baby furniture with her then 6 month pregnant daughter. Her daughter said she was hungry and wanted to stop for a bite. My aunt replied, and she was NOT joking, "why eat lunch, you are just going to have dinner in 6 hours". It was then and there we gave her the name Auntie Rexic (like anorexia).
Then to the right of me is my Auntie Beverly (my dads sister), then my Mom and then my Aunt Hallie (actually no relation but raised with my mom and her sister so she is an aunt and family to me). My aunt Bev is more the sentimental type. She is an easy cry and when there are tears in her eyes then mine are not far behind. She is outgoing and adventurous. She adores my kids and even shares her birthday with Erin, just 50 years apart.
Most of you know my Mom and know she is just plain great. She will get up early and/or travel far to see her grand kids, or nieces & nephews, play sports or participate in a play. She makes great cookies and shares them all the time. She is strong and, despite a few health issues, NEVER complains.
Lastly, there is Hallie. She has no kids of her own but makes up for it by spoiling all of us. She is our connection to Dodger games, magazines and special pretzels. She is just as strong and determined as the other 3 ladies and, again, another tough cookie.
I guess you can now see where my spirit and drive come from. These 4 ladies have set great examples. They have taught me so much in their words and actions. They have certainly helped me become the person I am today. They all have hearts of gold yet are women who stand up for what is right. They are not afraid to speak their mind nor step up when action is needed. I would be lucky to have just one woman like this in my life so you can imagine how great it is that I have 4.
Thank you Mom, Auntie Beverly, Auntie Jeannie and Hallie for all you do!!
Wednesday, October 8, 2008
Food (and drink) for thought
The Very Good Taste Omnivore's 100
1. Venison
2. Nettle tea
3. Huevos rancheros
4. Steak tartare
5. Crocodile
6. Black pudding
7. Cheese fondue
8. Carp
9. Borscht
10. Baba ghanoush
11. Calamari
12. Pho
13. PB&J sandwich
14. Aloo gobi
15. Hot dog from a street cart
16. Epoisses
17. Black truffle
18. Fruit wine made from something other than grapes
19. Steamed pork buns
20. Pistachio ice cream
21. Heirloom tomatoes
22. Fresh wild berries
23. Foie gras
24. Rice and beans
25. Brawn, or head cheese
26. Raw Scotch Bonnet pepper
27. Dulce de leche
28. Oysters
29. Baklava
30. Bagna cauda
31. Wasabi peas
32. Clam chowder in a sourdough bowl
33. Salted lassi
34. Sauerkraut
35. Root beer float
36. Cognac with a fat cigar
37. Clotted cream tea
38. Vodka jelly/Jell-O
39. Gumbo
40. Oxtail
41. Curried goat
42. Whole insects
43. Phaal
44. Goat's milk
45. Malt whisky from a bottle worth $60/$120 or more
46. Fugu
47. Chicken tikka masala
48. Eel
49. Krispy Kreme original glazed doughnut
50. Sea urchin
51. Prickly pear
52. Umeboshi
53. Abalone
54. Paneer
55. McDonald's Big Mac Meal
56. Spaetzle
57. Dirty gin martini
58. Beer above 8% ABV
59. Poutine
60. Carob chips
61. S'mores
62. Sweetbreads
63. Kaolin
64. Currywurst
65. Durian
66. Frogs' legs
67. Beignets, churros, elephant ears or funnel cake
68. Haggis
69. Fried plantain
70. Chitterlings, or andouillette
71. Gazpacho
72. Caviar and blini
73. Louche absinthe
74. Gjetost, or brunost
75. Roadkill
76. Baijiu
77. Hostess Fruit Pie
78. Snail
79. Lapsang souchong
80. Bellini
81. Tom yum
82. Eggs Benedict
83. Pocky
84. Tasting menu at a three-Michelin-star restaurant
85. Kobe beef
86. Hare
87. Goulash
88. Flowers
89. Horse
90. Criollo chocolate
91. Spam
92. Soft shell crab
93. Rose harissa
94. Catfish
95. Mole poblano
96. Bagel and lox
97. Lobster Thermidor
98. Polenta
99. Jamaican Blue Mountain coffee
100. Snake
Friday, September 26, 2008
What was I like?
What I really want to remember was the relationship I had with my parents. I know I didn't tell them everything but I think I was pretty honest with my emotions. In fact, I am pretty sure I am the same way I am now---I wear my emotions on my sleeve. You know what I am feeling, when I am feeling it just by looking at me. I don't think I hide much or have much of a poker face. I am wondering if my kids are the same way. I know they don't tell me everything but I think they tell me lots of things. I am naive or correct? Did I tell my parents just want they wanted to hear? I am afraid that my kids do just that. I don't think that they out and out lie to me but I think that they don't really let me in on what is going on with them.
Is A.J. happy at school or does he think he sold his soul to the devil just to play football? If he thinks he made a mistake will he tell me? Does he know that we are here for him NO MATTER WHAT or does he think that I will judge him too harshly and not understand?
And Erin, is she a happy, well adjusted 16 year old? Does she say one thing to my face and then go in her room and write in a journal about how miserable she is? How can I tell if she is really OK? Am I missing signs?
I try to think about what I was like at that age and if my parents had the same concerns. Maybe they did but just didn't let on. My parents made this parenting stuff look so easy--how did they do that? Were my siblings and I really that good? I doubt that.
When I raise my concerns to Dave he reminds me that we have 2 great kids and we have/are doing the right things and raising good teenagers. He tells me to continue telling them we love them and remind them that we are their biggest fans and are here for them whenever/whatever they need. They will let us know if there is a problem or if they need are help. Right now we have to sit back and let them be their own person.
I guess it doesn't matter what my life was like at that age but rather how I am now. Now I am a mom to 2 wonderful teenagers who make me smile EVERYDAY. I will go forward from here and hope for the best!!
Monday, September 15, 2008
Sad News
Wednesday, September 3, 2008
Tuesday, September 2, 2008
What a weekend....
They put on their uniforms and warm up. What a thrill it was for us to see him in a football uniform with his name on the back!!
Saturday, August 23, 2008
More press for A.J....
http://www2.gazette.com/usafa/display.php?id=1333596
Dave and I will be attending the first game next Saturday in Colorado Springs. I will fill you in when I get back!
Tuesday, August 19, 2008
Long time no talk...
Not too much going on with the Wallerstein family. A.J. is doing great at school. Classes have started and he reports all is fine. He is on the varsity football team and he is second string RIGHT TACKLE. Actually that is a HUGE deal. He is the only Freshman on the "two deep" on offense. A few freshman are on the defense but really very few. We are going to visit him next weekend at Parents Weekend. I will let you all know how that goes.
Erin has started 11th grade and all seems fine with that. She will go for her drivers license test next week and I am expecting her to pass. She is having a Sweet 16 this Saturday night and that, too, should go well.
Keep your fingers crossed that all progresses as it is now.
More later!!
Tuesday, August 12, 2008
Announcement....
Air Force Academy
vs.
San Diego State
@ Qualcomm Stadium, San Diego
Saturday, October 11th
Game time: 6:30PM
Tailgate time: 4:30PM (details provided at a later date)
Tickets: $15.00 each
includes KGB Skyshow (fireworks)following game
RSVP to me by SEPTEMBER 1st
call, email or send me the tear-off
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NAME: ___________________________________
# of tickets:_____x $15= total due: $____________
Send to: Wendi Wallerstein
29218 Gary Drive, Canyon Country 91387
Any questions, don’t hesitate to call me 661-803-9116
Invite friends—the more the merrier!!
Be advised, tickets are non refundable (SORRY).
AJ in the news...
http://www2.gazette.com/usafa/display.php?id=1333566
and
http://www2.gazette.com/usafa/display.php?id=1333557&secid=49
Based upon this news it is HIGHLY LIKELY that A.J. will be on the travel squad. Check back soon for information on tickets for the San Diego State game on October 11th.
Thursday, July 31, 2008
AJ is smiling!
Frustrated!!
With regards to school, we have tried everything. We have yelled, offered incentives for good grades and taken away privileges bad grades. Nothing seems to work. We let her know that she cannot get her drivers license unless she has a "B" average. At the end of the school year she didn't have any "D's" or "F's" (which is great) but she didn't have the B average. This summer she is taking Spanish III at College of the Canyons (to get ahead) and we told her that if she got an "A" in the class she could get her license. Well yesterday she told me that if she does well on her final she is certain to get a "B" in the class. She was not upset with this. In fact, she seemed just fine with it. I know I don't really have a lot to complain about BUT it is hard to see her not working up to her potential. She does NOT spend a lot of time studying. She had nothing else going on this summer and could have spent the extra time to insure the "A" but she didn't. I don't know what else to do. She certainly isn't in trouble as she is passing all her classes BUT she is not putting in much effort and really not trying as hard as she can. What can further can I do to motivate her? We do follow through on our "punishments" so she knows that we mean business. How do I get this to be more important to her?
And then there is the whole sitting around issue. I want her to take care of herself physically. Discussing it with her, or any teenage girl for that matter, is a delicate issue. You never want to make weight an issue. You always want to make health an issue. I want her to want to take care of herself now and make it a life long habit. Exercise is a daily part of my routine and she knows it. I want her to do the same. Next week we will go check out a local gym which she claims she will go but we all know how that often turns out. A friend of hers already belongs and they say they have a plan to go together every other day. We will give it a try--I certainly won't lock into any long term contract. Also, school starts in 2 weeks and she will have PE. She will continue to be on the soccer team. They have a new coach who, I believe, will work them much harder. I think it will be a tough couple weeks for Erin but she should get back into the swing of things in no time after all she is still so young!!!
I guess I should consider myself very lucky that these are the issues I am dealing with. I know it could be much, much worse. I love and adore my daughter and I only want the best of everything for her. I can't do it all for her and I just want her to have the motivation to do it for herself. I want her to be the best she can be and it frustrates me to see her being lazy. I am always the optimist and I will continue to be. At some point it is going to "click"--hopefully it will be sooner, rather than later.
Wednesday, July 30, 2008
Happy Birthday ERIN
Monday, July 28, 2008
Here is something to brag about....
Sunday, July 27, 2008
2 OF THE GREATEST PEOPLE I KNOW....
Monday, July 14, 2008
A.J. CALLED!
He tells us he is not allowed to smile, hence the straight face.
Monday, June 30, 2008
WAY TO GO A.J!
Mr. and Mrs. Wallerstein,
I would like to be the first person to congratulate your Basic Cadet, Basic Wallerstein, on his outstanding performance on June 27, 2008.
He performed the Aerobic Fitness Test without stopping or quitting, and led his classmates in Basic Cadet knowledge, while setting the example of constant professionalism throughout his first few days of Basic Training. As a result, I have awarded him the Basic Cadet Happy Hat Award and put a positive merit in his personnel file.
Once again, congratulations.
Thank you for your time and consideration,
Very Respectfully,
C2C Adam DeRito
B1 Element NCO
Zoomie Rugby Football Club
CS-18 "Nightriders"
USAF Academy
Class of 2010
He sent along this picture as well....
Seeing this affirms my belief that AJ is going to make it thru Basic with flying colors.
It actually reminds of when he 4 years old and going to his first week at Camp Clarita daycamp. He was by far the youngest camper at the camp. I was a bit concerned about him and worried if it was the right thing. Well at the end of the week he was named the first CAMPER of the WEEK. It was right that his love of Camp Clarita was cemented. He continued to attend & love camp for years and then served as a CIT and counselor for 3 years.
Sunday, June 29, 2008
A.J.'s Adresss
His address is:
Basic Cadet A.J. Wallerstein
PO Box 5918
USAF Academy, Colorado 80841-5918
We have been advised that during BASIC TRAINING it is best to send him letters on plain white stationary--nothing that will call attention to him. The Cadre's (upperclassmen) will use anything to poke fun at him.
I am certain he would love to hear from you so please write and write often. Also, if you include a self-addressed, stamped letter or postcard he will write you back.
Friday, June 27, 2008
a glimpse of AJ
We are now a MILITARY Family
We will not be able to speak to A.J. until July 13th when he is given an opportunity to make a few phone calls. It will be just that day and then we will not be able to speak to him again until August 6th, Acceptance Day, when he is officially accepted into the Academy as a Cadet 4th Class. It will be a tough 6 weeks for all of us but I am certain A.J. is going to come through it with flying colors.
I am sure you are all wondering how I am doing with this all. I am actually great. I am not sad, worried or upset. I am certain that this is something A.J. wants to do and will do great. It did break my heart having to separate him from his girlfriend, Stephanie, to take him to the airport. The 2 of them were in tears and A.J. continued with the tears for half the ride to LAX. He did get himself together and for the remainder of the ride he was his usual jovial self. When we got to the airport I pulled up to the curb at the United terminal, gave him a hug, told him I loved him and watched him walk into the airport. I did not feel bad. I thought about it and determined that I would be upset if he didn't go off to college. A.J. has been ready for college since about age 7!
When he arrived in Colorado Springs Dave was at the airport waiting for him. They ran a few errands, to get the last minute things he needed (a toothbrush, Tums and a new back pack) and then had dinner with 5 other cadets (all football players) and their families. Dave and A.J. spent Wednesday night at a hotel and woke early Thursday to head to the Academy. They started with breakfast with the football coaches and then headed to inprocessing. I spoke to Dave numerous times over this period and hearing about this made me feel even better about things. A.J. already has friends at the Academy. When you have friends with you anything is easier. There are 2 boys in particular that, I believe, will be among his best friends for the rest of his life. He met Jared and Harry when we took his "official" visit in December. The 3 of them got along great and helped each other determine that AFA was the place for them. They, of course, all committed and have stayed in touch ever since then. They met up again at the Academy for orientation in April and have been in contact via text in the months, weeks leading up to yesterday. In addition, Dave and I have met their parents and believe we have some new friends ourselves. You know you can never have too many of those!!
The next few weeks will be a bit difficult but we will all get through it. Of course I will worry if A.J. is getting enough food and sleep and Dave will worry about everything else. He is allowed to write us letters but we don't expect much as he is just not that kind of kid. I am sure he will have a few miserable days but I do believe he has his "eye on the prize" and it will be enough to get him through the rough times.
He has been assigned to Squadron 18, the Knightriders, and he will be in that squadron for his entire time at the academy. What more could a good Jewish mother hope for--my son his in the CHAI squadron!
As I know more I will write more. Thank you all for all your support!!
Thursday, June 19, 2008
Another Before/After
Monday, June 16, 2008
Here is whats up...
Just this past weekend A.J. had his Eagle Scout Court of Honor and a party to celebrate his accomplishments and going away. I am so very proud of all that he has done and look forward to everything he has yet to do. It is not this that brings a tear to my eye. I start to well up with I see my wonderful family and friends taking part in the celebrations and I think how lucky I am to have them all. As I see, or think, about all the people in our lives I am reminded that each and everyone of them have done something to help Dave and I raise such excellent children. We have an amazing support system and really appreciate everything everyone has done for us, for A.J. and for Erin over the years. And I know that they will continue to be there for all of us in the years to come. I am not sure that we even realize how blessed we are!!
And with all this celebration comes some tough issues, too. It is tough for Erin to have to follow in the footsteps of A.J. All the attention and accolades are focused on him right now, and actually for the past couple years. I am certain there are times when she feels left out or like she doesn't measure up. Dave and I try hard to not let this happen but I am certain that it does anyway. We remind her often that she, too, is terrific and that we love her but I am sure that sometimes it just not enough. It breaks my heart to think that for even one minute she feels unloved or that she is a distant second to her brother. She is unique and great in her own right and I want her to know that ALWAYS!! Alas, she may regret what she wished for as in just a short time A.J. will be off to school and we will have just one kid to focus our attention on. Dave and I do look forward to that one on one time with Erin and hope she does too.
Monday, June 9, 2008
Wednesday, June 4, 2008
A.J. has graduated....
Three weeks from today A.J. leaves for Colorado Springs. I do believe that I WILL shed many a tear between now and then but I expect to leave the most for after he is gone, when I am driving home from the airport alone.
Friday, May 30, 2008
Random Thoughts
1. I got gas this morning and nearly broke down in tears. $4.19 a gallon--is that crazy? Not only does it cost way more for gas but it cost way more for groceries because of it. The cost of things is going up and up and my salary is not. We are definitely making less trips and trying to cut costs but are really not finding significant savings anywhere.
2. Do I feel old or young? On the same day my son is graduating from high school the son of one of my best friends, since I was about 15, is having a bris. We are the same age and our sons are about 18 years apart. This isn't the only one of my good friends with a newborn. Later in the week I will be attending a baptism for the son of the best man at my wedding and in January one of my other best girlfriends had twins. My friends children will be babysitting my grandchildren. WEIRD!!
3. Proud mom moment....A.J. was named the 2008 Scholar Athlete of the Year at Canyon High. His name will be painted on the gym wall and will be there for all to see for all time. Once its up I will take a picture and post it for y'all to see.
4. My husband is terrific!! Not only has he done some amazing projects around the house lately--reupholstered his boat, put in a whole house fan, built a fire pit in the backyard--but he has also been sweet, kind and loving to me even when I have been grouchy and overwhelmed. He has been able to take me out of my nasty mood and make me laugh and smile. I don't think I tell him enough how much appreciate him.
5. A.J. is leaving for school is less than a month. I THINK I am fine with it but then again maybe I am not. Wednesday was the first, of what I think will be many, requests for dinner items before he leaves. He asked for Chicken Bacon Ranch Boboili pizza "before I leave". Of course, I said sure with a smile on my face but I got a little sad thinking about it.
Well, as usual, I thank you all for listening. More soon!
Wednesday, May 14, 2008
All grown up?
This week A.J. asked our permission to take a 3 day trip to the beach with his friends, following graduation and sans adult supervision. There will be 9 of them altogether--4 girls and 5 boys--and they will have 2 hotel rooms(boys in one room, girls in the other) at a hotel on the beach in Pacific Beach (the girls picked it unbeknownst to them that A.J.'s uncle lives just blocks away). They are all good kids and I am not worried about them doing anything illegal BUT I am still worried and have my reservations about allowing him to go. They will be driving in 2 cars to San Diego. They will be staying in a "party" area of town. They will be on their own for 3 days and 2 nights.
Maybe its just me but I feel like A.J. and his friends are less mature, or maybe less sophisticated, than I was at that age. They live in a "small" town, in a pretty sheltered environment. The have all had driving restrictions on them until only recently and I don't think any of them have significant freeway driving experience. Do they even know how to get to San Diego? What if they get lost? Well I do hope the ones that are doing the driving are the ones with GPS in their cars. Once in Pacific Beach I am certain they will run into more rowdy college students then they have ever seen. I certainly hope they don't get into any confrontations. Uncle Bruce does live right near by but it turns out he will be out of town for most of the time A.J. will be in town.
After I told Dave my concerns he reminded me that it is A.J. and HIS friends that are going. These are all very intelligent, well behaved kids. They will probably do no more than eat, go to the beach and play poker. They have all proven themselves over and over again with their behavior throughout their high school years. They know how to handle themselves and in no time all of them will be off to college. Dave sees no reason why they shouldn't go.
We now have given our blessing. The only catch--they may NOT go to Tijuana.
Monday, April 28, 2008
10 Things I Learned from My Parents
1. LIFE IS NOT FAIR. I think growing up this is the one thing repeated to me most often. Whether my sister, or brother, and I were fighting or if I was lobbying for some privilege or another. The cry of "thats not fair" simply did not fly in our house. Everyone is an individual and what is right for one is not neccesarily right for all. For me it has further evolved into 'Wendi (or the appropriate person) worries about Wendi".
2. SAVE your MONEY. My Dad told us this and repeadted it often. Buying things on credit was not an option. If you couldnt afford it you couldnt have it. Also, save for the future. I remember when I was young, maybe 12 years old, my Dad explained what a 401(k) was and actually showed me his statement balance. It was a nice chunk of money and it was a concrete example of what saving could do for me. The first chance I got I started in a 401(k) and continue with every job I have ever had.
3. THERE IS ALWAYS ROOM for 1 MORE. My mom is a great cook and hostess. Whenever she has family and/or friends over there is always space (and enough food) for another person. You would hate to ever leave a friend or family member alone on a holiday or special occasion.
4. DON'T OFFER ADVICE, WAIT TO BE ASKED. This is something I have learned by example. Over my teen years, newlywed, early parenting and even today my parents always are there to listen to what I have to say but don't put in their 2 cents unless I specifically ask for it. I now try to do the same with my kids and friends. Sorry if I am not as good at it as they are!
5. FAMILY is #1. There is nothing better, or more precious, than spending time with the family. Growing up Sundays were reserved for grandparents, aunts/uncles and cousins. With our busy lives we don't get to carve out quite as much time but I still do LOVE to be with my extended family. My sister, brother and cousins are truly my best friends.
6. READ. Whether it is the newspaper, a magazine or a good book always take time to read. We had the newpaper delivered daily, we went to the library to get books and we alwyas got a few magazine subscriptions every year. Reading is enjoyable, relaxing and provides a great source of knowledge.
7. DON'T TAKE YOURSELF TOO SERIOUSLY. There was a time and place for seriousness but more often there is time for laughter and, more importantly, laughing with you (not at you).
8. LOVE is UNCONDITIONAL. Even on the rare occasion I got in trouble (most often bad grades or talking back) my parents would remind me that they might not like what I did or how I acted but they still, and always would, love me. It made me feel good to know that even in my missteps or nastiness they still loved me.
9. DON'T HOLD GRUDGES. This is another thing that they rarely, if ever, mentioned but rather taught by example. Whether if it was with each other or their family memebers or friends. If they had a fight, disagreement or argument with someone it didnt last long. They didn't harbor resentment or hold it over someone's head. They simply moved on.
10. ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST. This sentiment was repeated often and sometimes too easily dismissed by me. It is something that I now repeat often to my children. I am easily proud of my children, whatever they are doing, if they simply give it their all.
This year at Mother's Day and Father's Day I will have special appreciation for my parents as I see how they have helped me become a good mom to my kids.
Wednesday, April 16, 2008
Finally....
Tuesday, April 15, 2008
I'M BAAAAACK
And here is a family picture I think you will all enjoy...
Now its time to get back to work and our normal busy lives. Thanks for indulging me!!
Thursday, April 3, 2008
The "Hawaii Pile" is gone
But fear not, the HAWAII PILE has been renamed--it is now the ORLANDO PILE. Southwest was able to exchange the 2 Maui tickets for 4 tickets to Orlando. Not exactly what we wanted but it will be a nice, warm, FAMILY vacation none-the-less. (Actually it does have its good points. The boys are now able to attend the Spring Game at the Air Force Academy and then attend orientation. AJ will now be able to attend orientation with a few friends and he and Dave will be home for the 2nd night of Passover. Due to the Hawaii trip they were going to attend different orientation dates. Now they will leave Orlando on Friday, while Erin and I stay until Sunday, and fly to Denver, stay for 4 days and come home on April 15th.)
So this morning I shed a few tears, spent 3+ hours on the phone (over 2 of them on hold) and now have put the bad behind me. I am looking at the bright side--I am not STUCK in Maui and unable to get home, I got all my money back for my airline tickets and I still get a vacation(just a little more costly than I had planned).
I will blog from Orlando--wish us luck!
Wednesday, April 2, 2008
Save the Date(s)
DAY DATE TIME OPPONENT (TV)
Saturday Aug. 30 12PM Southern Utah at AFA (no TV scheduled)
Saturday Sept. 6 1:30PM at Wyoming (CBS C)
Saturday Sept. 13 TBA at Houston (TBA)
Saturday Sept. 20 2PM Utah at AFA (VERSUS)
Saturday Sept. 27 BYE
Saturday Oct. 4 2PM Navy at AFA (VERSUS)
Saturday Oct. 11 6:30PM at San Diego State (THE MTN.)
Saturday Oct. 18 7:00PM at UNLV (THE MTN.)
Thursday Oct. 23 6:00PM New Mexico at AFA (CBS C)
Saturday Nov. 1 TBA at Army (TBA)
Saturday Nov. 8 4:00PM Colorado State at AFA (THE MTN.)
Saturday Nov. 15 1:30PM BYU at AFA (CBS C)
Saturday Nov. 22 2:30PM at TCU (VERSUS)
The Mtn.= Mountain West Sports Network. Currently this channel is carried by a limited number of cable companies and NONE in Southern California. Beginning August 1st this channel will be carried by Direct TV.
CBS C = CBS College Sports Network formerly known as College Sports Television (CSTV) and is carried by all cable and dish companies.
VERSUS is carried by all cable and dish companies.
The catch---we do not know, yet, if A.J. will be on the travel team. This will not be announced until the first game. We will be attending the first game FOR SURE, regardless, because it is Parents Weekend. I will certainly keep you posted. If he is on the travel team I hope we can all plan a trip to San Diego and/or Las Vegas to see the Falcons play.
Thursday, March 27, 2008
Blah, Blah, Blog
We will be staying at the Westin Kaanapali Ocean Resort and have lots of fun activities planned. We will bike ride down Halakala. Erin and Dave will do a zipline course (A.J. is too big) and we will go on a snorkling excursion. Erin would like us all to take a surf lesson together, which we plan on doing, and we will relax by the pool. I will try to blog a little from the trip and include a few pictures. If you have any advice or must do's please let me know. Once we return we get into a whirlwind of activities surrounding AJ's graduation and going away to the Academy. It will be our last chance for a family vacation for a good long time. I will try to relax, enjoy and savor every moment. ALOHA!
Wednesday, March 19, 2008
Getting to Know Me
This one was completed THIS MORNING...
1. WHAT TIME DID YOU GET UP THIS MORNING? 5:35
2. DIAMONDS OR PEARLS? diamonds
3. WHAT IS THE LAST FILM THAT YOU SAW AT THE CINEMA? Charlie Bartlett, and I do recommend it.
4. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE TV SHOW? Top Chef
5. WHAT DO YOU USUALLY HAVE FOR BREAKFAST? pretzels and a diet coke
6. WHAT IS YOUR MIDDLE NAME? Helene
7. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE MAGAZINE: Cooking Light
9. WHAT KIND OF CAR DO YOU DRIVE? Ford Explorer
10. FAVORITE SANDWICH? grilled vegetable
11. WHAT CHARACTERISTIC DO YOU DESPISE? chauvinism
12. FAVORITE ITEM OF CLOTHING? my comfy sweatshirts
13. IF YOU COULD GO ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD ON VACATION, WHERE WOULD YOU GO? Paris, France
14. WHAT COLOR IS YOUR BATHROOM? dirt and grime
15. FAVORITE BRAND OF CLOTHING? whatever looks good
16. WHERE WOULD YOU RETIRE TO? Carpenteria, California
17. WHAT WAS YOUR MOST MEMORABLE BIRTHDAY? I guess it would be my 30th birthday--I was in New Orleans upon the completion of a cruise.
18. FAVORITE SPORT TO WATCH? Whatever my kids are playing
19. FURTHEST PLACE YOU ARE SENDING THIS? Orange County
20. WHO DO YOU LEAST EXPECT TO SEND THIS BACK TO YOU? Rochelle
21. PERSON YOU EXPECT TO SEND IT BACK FIRST? Jen
22. FAVORITE SAYING? "good to go"
23. WHEN IS YOUR BIRTHDAY? 7/14/65
24. ARE YOU A MORNING OR NIGHT PERSON? morning
25. WHAT IS YOUR SHOE SIZE? 8
26. PETS? 1 dog
27. ANY NEW AND EXCITING NEWS THAT YOU WOULD LIKE TO SHARE? I think I have shared enough lately. 28. WHAT DID YOU WANT TO BE WHEN YOU WERE LITTLE? an attorney
29. HOW ARE YOU TODAY? much better than yesterday
30. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE CANDY? Scotchmallow or ScotchKiss from See's Candy
31. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE FLOWER? Gerber Daisy
32. WHAT IS A DAY ON THE CALENDAR YOU ARE LOOKING FORWARD TO? April 6th--we leave for Maui
34. WHAT ARE YOU LISTENING TO RIGHT NOW? the a/c fan in my office that NEVER shuts off
35. WHAT WAS THE LAST THING YOU ATE? pretzel sticks
36. DO YOU WISH ON STARS? on occasion
37. IF YOU WERE A CRAYON, WHAT COLOR WOULD YOU BE? cornflower blue
38. HOW IS THE WEATHER RIGHT NOW? a little chilly but it looks like it will be a beautiful day.
39. FAVORITE SOFT DRINK? DIET COKE
40. FAVORITE Restaurant? I never pass up thai food at Siam Rice
41. SIBLINGS? 1 sister, 1 brother
42. FAVORITE Day? Sunday
43. WHAT WAS YOUR FAVORITE TOY AS A CHILD? Skateboard
44. SUMMER OR WINTER? definitely summer
45. HUGS OR KISSES? Both at the same time!
46. COFFEE OR TEA? neither (see #39)
47. CHOCOLATE OR VANILLA? vanilla
48. DO YOU WANT YOUR FRIENDS TO EMAIL YOU BACK? Yes please. I love to find out new things about everyone.
49. WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU CRIED? yesterday morning
50. WHAT IS UNDER YOUR BED? dust and junk
5 1. WHO IS THE FRIEND THAT YOU HAVE HAD THE LONGEST? Lena
52. WHAT DID YOU DO LAST NIGHT? took Erin to soccer practice, made dinner and watched TV
53. FAVORITE SMELL? my husband when he is dressed and ready to go out
54. WHAT ARE YOU AFRAID OF? dying before my children are grown.
55. SALTY OR SWEET? salty
56. HOW MANY KEYS ON YOUR RING? 5
57. HOW MANY YEARS AT YOUR CURRENT JOB? 6
58. HOW MANY TOWNS HAVE YOU LIVED IN? 4
59. DO YOU MAKE FRIENDS EASILY? I like to think I do
The second one was a bit tougher. It required you to answer each question with just one word and it was completed about 2 weeks ago...
1. Your cell phone is? helpful
2. Your significant other? adorable
3. Your hair? brown
4. Your mother? amazing
5. Your father? special
6. Your favorite thing? sex
7. Your dream last night? realityTV
8. Your favorite drink? dietcoke
9. Your goal? centered
10. The room you're in? family
11. Your ex? non-existent
12. Your fear? creatures
13. Where do you want to be in 6 years? mortgage-free
14. Where were you last night? home
15. What you're not? thin
16. Muffins? blueberry
17. One of your wish list items? Paris
18. Where you grew up? northridge
19. The last thing you did? chopped
20. What are you wearing? schlumpadink
21. Your TV? foodtv
22. Your pets? tolerable
23. Your computer? laptop
24. Your life? changing
25. Your mood? plesant
26. Missing someone? nope
27. Your car? troublesome
28. Something you're not wearing? bra
29. Favorite Store? Target
30. Your summer? hot
31. Love someone? forever
32. Your favorite color? pink
33. When is the last time you laughed? lunchtime
34. Last time you cried? Yesterday
35. Who will/would re-post this? sister
Hope you have learned something new about me. Feel free to copy and paste either or both of the surveys into an email and let me know your responses. I really want to know about you, too.